CHAPTER ONE
INTRODUCTION
Background to the Study
Man is an entity but does not survive alone, that is he does not live in isolation but lived in relationship with those around him. This idea of living together calls for cooperation which is expressed in all the institutions man has ever known. The family is the institution. Since the inception of marriage which was ordained by nature, it has gone a long way of influencing the society both positively and negatively depending largely on the co-actors. Marriage though defined by the Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary of current English is an instance of legal union of a man and a woman as husband and wife that is a state of being married. On the other hand, marriage is a basic institution of any culture. The state and the church powerfully support it. It is a cornerstone of any culture through which companionship and sex relationship of man and woman achieve their fullest and richest expression. It is through it that children are revival maintain. The marriage institution dates back as far as the creation of man according to Christian religion belief and stated in Genesis when God said let make man in his image after our own likeness. And God said “it is not good that man should be alone, I will make a help mate for him” and he made a woman and brought her into man to be his wife. God institutionalized marriage.
Historically, most societies encourage marriage and give high status to married persons. Parents particularly, fathers are actively involved in the choice of marriage partners for their children (both male and female) especially females. This is because women do not only marry their husband but the whole of its extended family. They do not join since the woman’s future is wrapped up in her choice and often which the woman lies access to maintain their judgment. The parents have lived longer than have seen more deeply or more days than them (children) because they know the people and know the families into which the girl is going because the couple have to marry with full approval of their families or will break away sharply and probably painful. The role of the husband and wife were predetermined that the husband is to cam the wing and act as a protector and channel of communication with the outside world. That of the wife being to maintain the well being of the family and household and that these roles were expected by society to the extent that it was prepared to take little or no responsibility in the extent of tension and unhappiness. Perhaps in some ways the rigidity determined boundaries. The African society (of which Oredo is a typical example) is very complex at least spiritually. Many things that happen in the water world where there exist match making and marriage which they consider age, proximity, social class, education, physical character, family influence and care to make the marriage successful.
Today, the ideal of the arranged marriage seem old and the recently avoided Asian immigrants who still follow this practice are regarded by their fellow citizen as primitive and behind the time. Yet it has many advantages, one of the importance of which is the likelihood of greater tolerance of disharmony simply because the unhappy spouse does not feel the need for self-blame and can project the responsibility for the unhappiness upon the parent who choose unwisely. According to Lyn Gill (1980) as a Gird for unhappiness and psychologically ills rage scene from divorce stated that “the generation ago, divorce was so scandalous and out the originally that it was scarcely even conventional misery within a respectable marriage”. Divorce according to Stars, the Rockefellers who no longer had to care about what other people taught of them and were powerful enough to energy the publicity. Even at this, divorce still leaves indelible mark on some. It is on record that divorce damaged Aldai-Stevenson’s presidential in the 1960s.
According to Nita Kolen (1981) “society up till today maintain that the main shadows of a husband quadrants security, respect and pride for the women”. But with all these privilege that goes with marriage, sociologists have found to their dismay that there are six (6) basic classes of family disorganization of which divorce is a prime factor. Individual factors would include the various physical intellectual and personality components that comes into play whenever two or more people interacts in so far as individual factors are concerned, the limit seems to be interminable, social incompatibility, personality problems, infidelity excessive drinking, financial difficulties, in-law relationship, etc. One or more studies for example indicate that the following are associated with divorce: 1. Low socio-economic status. 2. Pair divorce 3. Early age of marriage 4. Certain kinds of cross-clan marriage 5. Premarital pregnancy 6. Being raised up in broken homes.
However, divorce is a grave social-misdemeanor, agonizing, suspect and against the moral grain but unfortunately, divorce figures continue to climb and couples split effects their actions will have on the academic achievement of their siblings. They take the wrong step to solving maternal problem. These divorce hide under the motion that marriage has always been a shifting transitory arrangement. “Till death do us part” used to be a realistic assessment of the registry in local government secretariat to complete the marriage ritual. After all the above aforementioned issues, it will be very imperative for us to ask what then are the problems or effects of divorce in our society in general, with regard to the child’s advice achievements. It seems to be the question that needs answer and solution. Divorce may not only mean the end of living together between a man and a woman but also breeds instability in the society such as problem of delinquent children and some other complete cities, one increase in the rate of suicide, drunkenness, promiscuity and so on. These problems affect the socio-economic and political life of any society coupled with the child’s academic achievement.
Most importantly and publicized aspects of divorce is the effects on children of such parents since the divorce rate itself has risen dramatically. The actual number of children affected has correspondingly reached a staggering proportion. Some of them turn out to become robbers, thieves and notorious when they experience hardship. All these constitute unhealthy social atmosphere in the society, hence the retard progress of the nation in all realm since they serve as log in the wheel of progress. Statement of the Problems Divorce in our society today has given rise to problem of various dimensions. They include growth of indiscipline and lawlessness in our society, armed robbery, thieves, drug abuse and addiction, sex abuse, the indiscriminate behaviour such as branchy in school, pick pocketing, lying, examination malpractices and disrespect to constituted authority.
SURVEY OF DIVORCE AMONG WOMEN AND IT’S EFFECTS ON CHILDREN’S ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENT
